Happy Tuesday!
Can you believe we have reached the end of 2024? Hearing elders say “the years pass more quickly the older you become” resonates now more than ever.
All right, let’s jump right into the last blog of the year! You might be surprised to learn that counselors do not have all the answers. Additionally, they sometimes struggle with issues they help their clients solve. In other words, while helping others, our own stuff shows up. This may sound frightening; however, it is one of the things I enjoy about my work. I help others, but I also increase my awareness of the areas I need support in as well.
Most recently I had the opportunity to work with another international client. While discussing the acculturation process, the individual expressed how the U.S. is very busy-oriented, and everyone is watching a “timeclock.” Welp, you guessed it! My own stuff began to show up, which led me to reflect on my time boundaries coupled with the source of my irritability over the Thanksgiving break. Your girl needed REST! Types of rest may include, but are not limited to physical, spiritual, mental, creative, and emotional rest. Furthermore, I happened to glance over at my yearly planner that reads “Book’d & Blessed.” I was reminded of my desire to be booked, blessed, AND balanced!
Various factors influence us to do more, have more, etc. I encourage you to reflect and reframe any self- messages that discourage rest. Example: The more I do or obtain equates to value. Reframe: My worth is not found in possessions or productivity. I ‘am in no way discouraging the hustle. However, I’m encouraging the release of habits that no longer serve us in the long-term.
Finally, tips to flourish:
· Discern what deserves your attention (urgent & important)
· Establish boundaries
· Release the stinking thinking (see messages from Refuel, Recharge, Return blog)
· Delegate (tasks that are not urgent or can be completed by someone else)
· Limit distractions
· Seek support/accountability partners (know the difference between being surrounded vs supported-thanks to my internet Pastor Mike McClure Jr.)
· Be intentional about YOU (this may include scheduling something weekly, bi-weekly, etc.)
· Increase body awareness (notice when you feel depleted, energized, etc.)
Remember: The “timeclock” reads YOU vs. YOU, therefore pace yourself. Taking care of others requires taking care of YOU, first!
Feel free to share with a friend or anyone who may benefit!
Take time, talk soon!
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