NOvembHER!

Have you ever told yourself that once a certain bill was paid off, the children grew older, you have more money, your partner arrives (unmarried folks), you obtain a certain status or level, you would do something for yourself? If so, this blog is for you. 

As cliche as it may sound, time truly waits for no one! I stopped by to challenge you to think about what opportunities might you have missed due to waiting for the "right time?" What do you owe yourself? Yes, you! What did you say NO to that you should've said yes to? Reflection encouraged here. 

Recently, a good friend briefly shared her need to re-establish self-care, which started with a pedicure. I quickly inserted my thoughts on how my friend needed to add herself to the "To Do list." Some may say it wasn't my business, but if you are my friend, you are my business. It was communicated out of love, and my hope was to empow-HER (you see what I did there)?! There's prioritizing tasks and there's prioritizing YOU. Often, we are surrounded by others who will see us struggling or not making the best choices and turning a blind eye because that's your business (and it is). However, we often overcommit to show up for others. Imagine being as committed to self as you are to others. 

How you see yourself will determine how you treat yourself. Your self-perception will also determine your ability to prioritize your needs. I challenge you to stop chasing what society tells you matters, reflect on what matters to you (values), and reflect on your needs (what fills/empties your cup). 

Release the stinking thinking that has discouraged you from honoring your needs. NO is a complete sentence. You owe yourself more than the bare minimum. NO more negotiating with yourself. You owe you, period! 

Reflection Points:

-Discern who or what deserves your attention. 

-Who am I in community with? Who is your tribe?

-Who do I feel most supported around?

-Listen to your body.

-Shift your mindset. 

-Practice self-compassion. 

-Start small. 

-Assess your goals.

-What value-based action can I commit to (what actions align with what you've identified as a value)?

-Know that you can start where you are with what you have. 

-Pray. 

-Manage your expectations (be realistic). 

This list is not all encompassing! Adjust as necessary.

Remember: Grace is the pace!

Feel free to share with a friend or anyone who may benefit! 

Take time, talk soon! 

Thanks!